What I Will Tell Sweet E: Dig Yourself

I stumbled over this piece I wrote a few years back and it brought home the point that truth never changes; it’s the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.

Dig Yourself

Once you get over what folks think about you, and believe me they will always have an opinion, life gets easier.

Once you get to that point, you get to ask yourself what’s important to you, which then allows you to proceed with confidence because it no longer matters what others will whisper or think or hold up for public debate.  The choke-hold of public opinion fails to sway you.

Being happy with who you are, with who you were born to be, whether that meshes with popular societal views or not, is the key to a life well-lived.  Your life is a work in progress.  There will be those who don’t get anything about you, who wish you would go along to get along, who will never understand why it is you do the things you do.  People project their fears when faced with the unhappiness of their life choices; it has nothing to do with you.  Remember that.

Dare to follow your distinctive voice; be the you that only you can be.

No one gets it right 100% of the time, but when you know you have stepped into the life that is yours, when you accept who it is you are, who you were born to be with all your failings and strengths, something happens.  It is as if the river aligns with the sea and you are carried away with the flow instead of battling against it.

This process takes practice.  There are days of failure and struggle.  The push-back of doubt is always thisclose.  Fight it.  It’s your life and you know best.

I can count on one hand, without using all my fingers, the people that have a grasp on who it is I am.  One of those fingers belongs to a dead man.  For much of my youth,  I lamented that so few understood me, got me, but as I stood witness to the goodness of who I was and what I wanted, regardless of others perceptions, a profound shift occurred.  I accepted me, embraced me even, while acknowledging some never would.

We seek understanding and love.  We want folks to like us.  We want to fit in.  But, the bigger issue isn’t whether anyone likes you/loves you/understands you, it’s whether you are truthful to who you are.  It’s whether you like you.

Dig yourself, my sweet baby boy.

Dig yourself.

What I Will Tell Sweet E

 

 

 

Comments

  1. You are so right. There will never be another beautiful you. We are all unique and special. Once we get that, we can embrace who God made us to be- one of a kind, unique, special, created in His image.

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      It’s one of the hardest lessons and one that we have to keep practicing until we believe! Thanks for the lovely comment.

  2. What a great post!

  3. Love yourself. What a powerful message for Sweet E.

  4. What an inspiring post and coincidentally… exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you! xo

  5. Wow…very powerful Patti! I too needed to read such an affirming piece…..we all need this from time to time.
    I’d like to share via google+ for my granddaughters….teen and almost teen! They too will surly benefit from reading such a beautiful tribute to self!
    Joan/Gramcracker

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      Always feel free to share. I’m humbled when someone wants to pass something along. Thank you for such nice words.

  6. Ah, I have had to stumble on this truth myself. How precious that you are teaching it to one so young. “Truthful to who you are.” Beautiful in its simplicity yet profound in it’s truth.

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      The truth is the easiest, yet toughest tool we have in our box. The earlier kiddos learn they are valuable just the way they are, the better. Thank you.

  7. I couldn’t agree more.

    Mollyxxx

  8. This is truly thought provoking. While I do like who I am — I am sure not satisfied with who I am — LOTS of self doubts.( I gotta work on this one some more.) You are very right that we must teach children that they have wonderful value as early and as often as we can.

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      I think we are all works in progress, and while I too have doubts, in my core, I am confident that I was made for a purpose and have embraced who I was born to be. Thanks for the thoughts.

  9. My life changed when I realized the truth in these words. I now try to teach my grand children to love yourself because we were made by God and he doesn’t make mistakes. Be true to YOU! Thanks for the great post and thanks for joining us at the Let’s Get Social Sunday link party. Have a wonderful Sunday :)

  10. I teach middle school which is one of the hardest stages in a child’s schooling. They are just discovering who they are, but so many are afraid to be that person. I have many discussions in my Leadership class about being themselves and not worrying about what others think. We are all judged no matter what we do so we might as well do what we want to do.

    Both my kids are adults and though we continually gave them that message, each had to go through the struggle on their own and are now comfortable in their own skin.

    Thanks for your beautiful words today.

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      Thank you for joining the conversation. I tutored for years and the kiddos I saw struggled as well. To some the concept of being themselves was totally foreign, but when those darlings come into their own, it’s such a gift to everyone around them..

  11. Marcia @Gathering at the Table says:

    Simply perfect. Have brought up my children to dig through this practically from the time they were born. Who am I is very simple to know…the answer is in WHOSE am I. We are made in His image; therefore, to say we are anything less is wrong. Funny how the world (even in blogland) conspires against this simple truth and even when we know it, there are days it is so very tested. Fitting in is nearly impossible if we know who we are. Valiant determination to be ourselves.
    Thank you so much for this today, Mrs. T.
    Stopping by via Kathryn’s, The Dedicated House.
    Much love.

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      Bast comment of the day! Thank you for sharing this with us and for the lovely compliment.

  12. Hi there! I am co-hosting this week on Fit Frugal Family Link Party. Thanks for linking up!

    I also host a TGIF Link Party over at my place — A Peek Into Paradise… http://apeekintomyparadise.blogspot.com/ Would love for you to link up, Opens on Fridays and stays open until Wednesday at midnight.

    Thanks again for visiting Fit Frugal Family Link party!

    Have a terrific week!

    Hugs, Cathy

  13. Wonderful post. I took me a long time to learn this. I’m going to share this with my granddaughters. Thanks for the inspiring post.

  14. Oh so true – wonderful post.

    Thanks so much for sharing at The Friday Baby Shower Alice x

  15. This is so important for people to remember. Thanks so much for sharing with Wednesday’s Adorned From Above Blog Hop.
    Have a great week.
    Debi and Charly

  16. Thanks so much for sharing with Wednesday’s Adorned From Above Blog Hop.
    Have a great week.
    Debi and Charly

  17. Love this piece. I spent a lot of years wondering why I wasn’t like everyone else. Now I like myself just fine, and wish I had all those years ago. Thanks for linking, see you tomorrow.

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      I think the majority of people feel as if they don’t fit in, but it’s not really talked about. Years behind us bring wisdom, and I’m glad to know you’re diggin’ yourself! Thanks for joining the conversation.

  18. Loved this! Thanks so much for linking up with us today at thet2women.com and hope you’ll come back again next Sat! I’ve pinned this to our board on Pinterest as well!!

    God bless, sue

  19. Awesome! I’ve tried to say something like this in some of my “Things my Grandkids Should Know posts, but I have never nailed it like this.

  20. Very, very sweet! Thank you for linking this to One Sharendipity Place this past weekend and we hope you’ll link up with us each Saturday!

    Sue @ thet2women.com

  21. This is so true and so sweet. Dig yourself? Hell yes! Stopping in from Grandma’s Briefs. I know I’ve been here before and always enjoy the stopping by.

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