Christmas is over.
Oh, man. That’s a toughie.
So what do you do?
Do you keep it because of the love and thought that went into the gift-giving?
Do you exchange it for store-credit, cash or something else?
Do you regift that badboy?
Some of y’all winced on that last one, but I’ll confess I’ve done all three based on these guidelines:
If the giver will ask about the gift they gave me, even though it wasn’t a great fit for me (I’m talking figuratively. I’ll always say something if the literal fit is off.), I will keep the gift and revel in the fact that they loved me enough to go out of their way to find something thoughtful. Period.
I have no problem exchanging a gift if #1) the giver has included the gift receipt or if #2) if they have expressed that they have no problem with me finding something I’d rather have or that is more to my tastes.
I have parted with the guidelines if neither of these things have transpired, but I know for a fact that the giver wouldn’t get their feelings hurt.
Let me start by saying that I know of gifts that I have given to others that were then regifted. The first time it happened, I had a WTH?! moment of indignation. HOW DARE THEY! After all, I had spent my time and money trying to find something I thought they would love, only to have obviously missed the mark.
After that first stinging slap, I asked myself why I felt ownership of something I had freely given. Since then, I’ve been completely fine with a regift.
That said, I have also regifted. I don’t do it often; I don’t like to do it. When someone gives me something, I like to imagine the thought they invested. That alone is a wonderful gift, because I’m at the age where I realize that not everyone is lucky enough to have people in their lives that care enough to invest both their time and treasure, so why sully it with a regift?
Sometimes the gift is something you would never use and would be regulated to a closet until one day, way off in the future, you’d discard it. I would never want a gift I’ve given to meet that fate because someone was trying to be respectful.
If it’s the closet or a regift, I try to find someone who would love and cherish the gift…but…only if the giver would remain oblivious to the fact. That means, if you’re going to regift, make sure the person who receives it does not run in the same circles as the original giver.
Think Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon.
What happens if the original giver finds out? You can try explaining the above without insisting that they understand, because the first time one finds out is the hardest, my babies. Be gentle. Beg for mercy. Remember, a warm plate of brownies fixes almost anything.
So tell us: keep, exchange or regift?
What say you?