What I Will Tell Sweet E: Good Friends Will Carry You Home

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Dearest Sweetest E,

You’re gonna need friends as you stiff-arm your way through life; pick them well and they’ll be the lifeblood of your strength.

Good friends make you believe you aren’t alone in the expanse of this world.  Good friends are there even when physically absent, hell even in death.  Good friends tell you truths no one else would dare.  Good friends lie straight to your face when you’re too fragile for the truth. Good friends know which salve you need and when you need it.

Many of my friends, the fearless ones, have been with me through most of my life.  This means more than I can adequately express.  When you’re lucky enough to have someone know you from the inside out, someone who has seen your worst and has stuck, damn, it’s holy ground, baby. Never, and I mean never, take that for granted.

Good Friends Will Carry You Home

I used to tell your daddy that if he was a good friend (especially when he thought it sucked to be one) then he would have good friends in return; that advice is still true today.

Good friends, if you’re lucky enough, brave enough, and smart enough, will become your family.

Take a look around.  See all your aunties and uncles that aren’t blood-related, but love you to the moon and back?  It doesn’t matter one whit (that’s a very itty-bitty small nano-sized matter) that they aren’t your biological family; the fact is that they are your family because they were first your parent’s family.

But how will you know if a friend is good?

Good friends don’t care that you slobber when you cry; they care that you’re hurting.  Good friends don’t care that you’re goofy when you’re in love; they care about your happiness.  Good friends don’t care that you disagree with them; they care that you’re honest. Good friends don’t care that you have more or less than they do; they care about you, not your possessions.  See the binding thread?  Good. Friends. Care.

Good friends may get annoyed, they may get mad, and they may get even, but the best ones forgive and forget, just like you will.

Good friends will make your weakness strong, your joy multiply, your fears retreat, your laughter flow, your love expand, your worry light and your best self, better.

When you find the good ones, do all you can to keep them.

Good friends will carry you home, sweet boy.

With more love than I dreamed possible,

Mrs. Tucker




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  1. Beautiful and oh.so.true! I must save this for my granddaughter Annabelle. I have 2 really good friends, one I’ve known since 1st grade, so that’s about 60 years and the other I’ve known for almost 30 years. I consider them both sisters. Thanks for reminding me just how much they mean to me.

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      I love hearing about enduring friendships. Thank you for sharing with us and for the sweet comment.

  2. He already has a best friend! 🙂

  3. Carolyn Burch says

    Wonderful writing and wonderful advice….I enjoyed reading it very much. And that picture is priceless. I am a scrapbooker who LOVES to journal and while a picture may be worth a thousand words, I believe that telling the story behind the picture is the most priceless gift you can leave. 🙂
    Stopping by from the Not Done Growing Yet Linky Party
    and letting you know that I just started following you

    I hope you will stop by for a visit!

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      What a nice comment. Thank you. The pic is a stock picture, but I felt it captured exactly what I wanted to relay. Thanks for coming by.

  4. This is a perfectly beautiful piece of writing! It is wonderful and heartfelt advice that will bring your grandson through the trials and errors of finding friends and discarding some who won’t make the cut because grandma has armed him with a solid list of what to look for!
    In our own family, I often told my three daughters that “friends will come and go, but sisters are forever!” While they all have valued friendships, it is always a sister they turn to when the need for honesty and loyalty is greatest! The three of them are truly (in today’s lingo!) “besties!”

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      This world is getting harder to navigate and I think our children and their children are finding it more difficult to stay connected. I have friends that go back to when I was seven (DINOSAUR!) and I have friends that are much more recent; I wanted to speak to those ties. Thank you for such a nice comment. Your girls are lucky to have your wisdom.

  5. Stumbled upon you through the what’s shakin link up and so glad I did. This was so beautifully written! I love the sentiment! 🙂

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      It’s so nice of you not only to come by and read, but to take the time to tell me you enjoyed it. Thank you.

  6. I love how you express yourself in your posts! Glad I came over from the Grand Social at Grandma’s Briefs!


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