What I’ll Tell Sweet E: Just Show Up

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While this is definitely a post for Sweet E, it’s also a post for all of us, because sometimes we can use the reminder.

March is here.  Did you notice?  The first day of spring is thisclose.

I even have photographic proof:

What I'll Tell Sweet E: Just Show Up

All of this means that it’s been a couple of months since we resolved to do better at that.

Did the reminder make you wince?  Was it like you just got your hair snatched and you’re flailing to get out?  Or did the reminder make you feel good, like a hearty hailed, WELL DONE, CAPTAIN! because you’re knocking your publicly announced intentions out of the park.

I don’t make resolutions, never have. (Wait.  I made a secret one this year, but it’s pure silliness, so it’s more of a this is gonna be so much fun thang that it hardly counts as a resolution.  And no, I can’t tell you until the end of the year, because then you’d be on to me and my fun might be ruined.)  My logic is simple: If you don’t make resolutions, you can’t make yourself craziery.  And less crazy is always a good thing.  No really, I asked Husband and he was all vigorous head nodding, over-smiling and two literal thumbs up.

Less crazy = happier life.

So, what the hell do I do when I want to accomplish something big?  What do I do when I need the motivation to kick it into high gear?  What do I do when I can dream the thing that I want, but can’t yet put my hands on it because I haven’t done anything to build it?


Just show up.

What I'll Tell Sweet E: Just Show Up

That’s it.

The secret of The Universe has just been revealed.  How do you feel?  A little let down?  Like you anticipated something shinier, maybe with a fireworks and jazz hands finish?

Yeah, lots of people feel like that when they learn something monumental, yet simple.

You mean all I have to do is just show up and POOF! there it is?

Yes and no.

You do need to just show up, but once you’re there you need to start the work, whatever work it is you’re committed to. By that I mean, you need to get to the place you need to be in order to make things happen.  Once you’re there (just show up), you have two choices: 1) Do the thing you originally intended or 2) realize you’re at the wrong place and go back to #1.

Want to be in better shape?  Get your ass to the gym, or get out the door and start walking.  Just show up, then start doing the work.

Want to be a better parent?  Take your kiddos to the park/for a drive/to get ice cream (just show up), then listen to those babes and let the magic happen.

Want to learn a new language/how to cook/build a house?  Take a class (just show up), then take notes and do as instructed.

Just show up.

Seems like the easiest thing to do…

…but know this, Sweet E, it’s the hardest step.

Quit talking about making resolutions and starting on Monday and convincing yourself that you’re too tired, or too broke, or too embarrassed.  If you have something you want to do, but you’re waiting for the right moment, or encouragement, or even your muse, you might want to ask yourself if you really want it at all.

We’ve all known the person who swears they’ll never marry/get a dog/find religion and then the right person/pup/conversion comes into their lives and they can’t wait to do the thing they said they’d never do.  Passion is like that.  There is no waiting.  There are no excuses.  There is only heat and desire and the right here, right NOW.

Just show up.

It’s one of the best pieces of advice I ever heard.

There’s only one more thing I’d like to say: From here on out, when you hear yourself saying that you want to do this or that, yet are no more inclined to begin the process to go after the this or that than before you uttered the words, allow yourself the grace to let it go.  Once you’ve given the unrealistic its walking papers, find the thing/s that makes your heart sing, that makes you giddy and ridiculous and sets you into motion regardless of how tired/broke/embarrassed you are.  And then?

Just. Show. Up.

You’ll know what to do after that.


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  1. I am so prone to worry about things that might happen…this year, I am making a concerted effort to brush those worries away and just BE present with my girls during the day. Take care of what needs to be taken care of TODAY (a lot less worry, a lot more play)…the rest will take care of itself.

    Your words are a balm, Patti!

  2. I did make a resolution this year, though I made it mid January not January 1st. And so far so good. But you’re right. I had talked about wanting to do this for a long time. But I had to get to the point where I was willing to put in the work.

  3. Christina says

    I read this blog constantly, and it always brings a smile to my face. I am a new (young) grandma (Mee-Maw to two, and one on the way in May) and I have to stop what I am doing and say thank you. Thank you for posting and sharing so much with me, that I feel like I know you. This (just show up) is exactly what I needed to read/hear today, as several things are culminating and I tend to over-worry, over-compensate, over-EVERYTHING especially when I feel that I have no control over the outcome. (Isn’t that ironic, when I tell my adult children to “Woosa” if it isn’t something they can directly change, to just exhale and let it go??) Yet, here I am..anxiety ridden. This post helps me put it into perspective and reminds me to simply do the first thing first…just show up. I wish I could hug you. Thank you.. thank you.. thank you 🙂

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      Omgosh. Thank you. I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to know that you are happy to come here, but better yet, feel at home here. Just showing up is the hardest step and I love how as moms, we know how to guide our kiddos, yet are stumped when it comes to our own lives. Thank you so much.

  4. Ugh. Right when i ws thinking of all the reasons i don’t want to go running. I’m my defense – as Owl would say “It’s a rather blustery day” ha!

  5. joan stommen says

    Love this…great advice! Especially the part that comes next…..do the work! How many kids show up at school and folks show up at work but don’t do anything! They should be reading this! LOL
    I start each day by forcing myself to get up! Lazing too long can set the pace of the day. Next I have to push myself out the door to the gym….but then voila! I’m happy to be there. I may need this showing up mantra everyday….but so worth it! Thanks for this great post, Patti!

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      Thanks! It’s amazing what happens when we just show up. It’s so much of the battle to moving forward. But once there…START THE WORK!

  6. Just show up. You ain’t Just Whislin’ La Guantanamera there mujer!! Spiritual yet straight to the point. Loved it; Gracias & BB2U.

    p.s. here from the grand social.

  7. I love these letters to your Sweet E! I’ve gotta read more. And great advice, by the way. I phrase it “Just do the next thing” but yes, just DO! Found you through WFMW

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      Thank you for that. Some of those letters are harder to write than others, and I don’t know if he’ll ever read them, but I love the idea that he might one day.

  8. LOVE this! So much truth and so simple. We want to talk and talk but taking action is the hardest part. Found you through the Friday blog hop. Definitely following now. Added you to my google plus circles.
    Angela @ Time with A & N

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      It easier to talk about this, even I’ve been guilty of that. Thanks for the follow! Always happy to have a new reader!

  9. I love what you said about “giving the unrealistic its walking papers”. I often feel hung up on past events or attempts that didn’t pan out, and get stuck on repeat instead of starting new ventures. Yes, I WILL give myself permission to give the unrealistic it’s walking papers. Today.

  10. When you put it this way, it doesn’t sound quite so hard! I needed that today 🙂 Thanks for sharing at Family Fun Friday – I’m featuring your post this week.

    • Mrs. Tucker says

      It’s the ol’ one step in front of the other approach! Thank you for the kinds words and for sharing.


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