What I Will Tell Sweet E: Face Your Fears.

Fear can paralyze strength.

Fear can belittle wisdom.

Fear can create chaos.

Fear can manipulate truth.

Fear can amplify insecurities.

Fear can mute goodness.

Fear can blacken day.

Fear can expand deceit.

Fear can wither boldness.

Fear can crush action.

Fear is slippery and insidious and able to enter our spirit like a virus, exponentially replicating itself until we are left terrified and weakened.

What are we to do?  What can we do?

Face Your Fears

My experience tells me that one should never willingly give over to fear; one must look fear in its flat soulless eyes.

Face your fears, baby.

Lean into those gremlins that seek to steal your peace.  Look into the unsettling abyss, stand unsteady, yet determined, at the precipice, understand what must be overcome by turning into your fear instead of running from it.

And if that fails you?

If that fails, my Sweet E, you can borrow Mrs. Tucker’s baseball bat and do what you must.

Fear needs to be fed in order to stick around. What if I don’t do that?  What if I do this?  What if that doesn’t happen?  What if that does happen?  Take a look at the answers to those questions.  Think calmly.  Figure things out, or don’t, but take time to look at what you’re facing instead of letting it fester into something it’s not.

Once a fear is faced, is turned over for sharp edges, is suddenly seen for what it is instead of what it feels like in a moment of panic, you can start playing offense instead of defense. (For those who hate sports analogies: offense is regarded as an active positive position and defense is considered reactionary.)

The trick is to know when to use fear to your advantage and when to kick it to the curb.

Some fear is healthy. 

Wearing a helmet while riding a bike because you value your brain = healthy fear of physical pain and injury.

Telling the truth, even when it’s gonna hurt = healthy fear of your folks/authority/Santa.

Never swiping the last piece of cake from Mrs. Tucker, because after all, she owns a bat = healthy fear of a granny who doesn’t play when it comes to her cake (who am I kidding?!  you can totally have it!).

Some fear is unhealthy.

Not making a decision because you don’t know which direction to go = fear of failure.  (everyone fails, baby. you can’t escape it.)

Refusing to voice an opinion because of what people might think = fear of rejection. (there will always be people who won’t like you, regardless if you agree with them or not.)

Wondering if there is indeed someone for everyone = fear of not being loved. (IMPOSSIBLE!)

Fear is part of human nature, it will never fully be defeated.

Facing your fears, walking right up to them, thumping them in the chest, then beating your way through them without retreating or hiding, gets you to the other side intact, bearing the well-earned scars of wisdom and strength.

It may not be easy. It may not be pretty.  It may require a fortitude you never knew you had until the moment needed, but fears faced = fears overcome.

Do not be afraid, Sweet E.

Face your fears.

 

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Comments

  1. You may have written this for Sweet E, Mrs. Tucker, but it speaks directly to me! Thank you.

  2. Grandmother Wren says:

    Bravo, Mrs. Tucker ! I struggled with anxiety and fear for many of my younger years – I know how true your words are and what value they will be to your sweet E. Blessings.

  3. Wonderfully written, from the heart! Thanks for sharing!

    Oh, I found you on the Fun Friday Blog Hop 🙂 Thanks for contributing!

  4. I LOVE LOVE LOVE this post. So sweet and genuine. Thank you for sharing it with us at The Project Stash Link Party! I truly enjoyed visiting your blog.:)

    Kadie
    7Alive All Livin’ in a Double Wide

  5. I love this post! And the photo is the perfect illustration of facing your fears! Learning to face our fears, turning them over to look at “the sharp edges” really is a great life skill.

  6. Carrie This Home says:

    What inspirational words to share with young ones. Heck–I could use this as an adult! Thanks for linking up to Frugal Crafty Home!

  7. I faced a fear yesterday when I tried to pick up a ‘what I thought was’ an almost dying centipede w a pair of bug tweezers to put it in my girl’s bug box only to have it unravel and GET REALLY BIG.. To which I dropped the tweezers, screamed and then proceeded to knock over her bug box w a BIG spider in it to have the door pop open… All while my husband was no where to be found.. Now that me facing a huge fear 😉

    • Mrs. Tucker says:

      This made me squint my eyes and put a knot in my stomach. RUN!!!! Um, I mean, nice fear facin’.

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